As you all know, for the past week we were in Chapel Hill, North Carolina, visiting youngest son Mike and his girl Lila. Mike had surgery on his right eye so we went down to help out. I was so happy to be with them. I brought some food I cooked at home and meal ideas for each night, a huge bag of games and a 1000 piece puzzle. The procedure went well on Monday and he felt better each day!
In order to pass the time, there were some pretty competitive card games,
- War and Go Fish -
and this new to me game, - Rack-O - I fell in love with this game, I'll have to get one for myself.
There were many games of - Uno and Scattergories - Categories - We let Mike win a lot, since he was the patient... hehehehe... We're back home now - it was a great week - I enjoyed every moment with them. It was so hard to say good-bye!
to celebrate Fathers Day! I am composing this post on Thursday and we are still here. We have had a great week. Are you wondering who won the Scavenger Hunt, it is a contest you know... Well...I won, but it was close, 51 - 50. Better luck on the way home!!
A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat and talked about life. At some point in the conversation, I said, “I’m going to wash the dishes and I’ll be right back.”
He looked at me as if I had told him I was going to build a space rocket. Then he said to me with admiration but a little perplexed: “I’m glad you help your wife, I do not help because when I do, my wife does not praise me. Last week I washed the floor and no thanks.”
I went back to sit with him and explained that I did not “help” my wife. Actually, my wife does not need help, she needs a partner. I am a partner at home and through that society are divided functions, but it is not a “help” to do household chores.
I do not help my wife clean the house because I live here too and I need to clean it too.
I do not help my wife to cook because I also want to eat and I need to cook too.
I do not help my wife wash the dishes after eating because I also use those dishes.
I do not help my wife with her children because they are also my children and my job is to be a father.
I do not help my wife to wash, spread or fold clothes, because the clothes are also mine and my children.
I am not a help at home, I am part of the house. And as for praising, I asked my friend when was the last time after his wife finished cleaning the house, washing clothes, changing bed sheets, bathing her children, cooking, organizing, etc. You said thank you.
But a thank you of the type: Wow, sweetheart !!! You are fantastic!!!
Does that seem absurd to you? Are you looking strange? When you, once in a lifetime, cleaned the floor, you expected in the least, a prize of excellence with great glory…why? You never thought about that, my friend?
Maybe because for you, the macho culture has shown that everything is her job.
Perhaps you have been taught that all this must be done without having to move a finger? Then praise her as you wanted to be praised, in the same way, with the same intensity. Give her a hand, behave like a true companion, not as a guest who only comes to eat, sleep, bathe and satisfy needs…Feel at home. In his house.
The real change of our society begins in our homes, let us teach our sons and daughters the real sense of fellowship!
I use to call them "Snowballs" when I was a wee one,
I'm not sure when I learned their real name,
- Hydrangea's -
This plant is an Endless Summer,
It blooms at least 4 times during the summer,
I have had new blooms on it as late as October.
It is huge, a real show stopper.
It provides blooms in blue, purple and pink, all at the same time.
Here is my critter for today, a Cloudless Sulphur Butterfly
I wanted to photograph the butterfly on one of the blooms, It was quite still...and easy to photograph. I gently tapped the leave and it fluttered off, but when it came back, it once again landed on a leaf, never on a bloom. I have 22 pictures that all look like this... I am now searching for a live caterpillar, to bring indoors so it can morph into a butterfly - like I did last year. If you have never done it, it can be fun and very rewarding. Most caterpillars don't survive in nature, bringing one indoors insures it will not be eaten and it will indeed become a butterfly. Now that's something wonderful you can do for the butterflies! If you are interested in raising a butterfly, you can follow this link to read my blog post about Raising a Butterfly And this link to Butterflies Are Free when we set it free. Sharing today's images with